If you're being abusive toward your
partner, the first and hardest part of changing is admitting your
behaviour is wrong. It's very important to take responsibility for
the problem and get help to end it.
Here are signs that you've crossed the
line…
(1) You frequently
have angry outbursts at your partner
(2) You criticise the way your partner looks or
dresses
(3) You insult or curse at your partner when
you're upset
(4) You constantly call or text your partner to
check where they are
(5) You won't give your partner any space and
refuse to leave if they ask you
(6) You try to control the people your partner
spends time with
(7) You use manipulation to make your partner
doubt themselves (called 'gaslighting')
(8) You often speak for your partner, or speak
over them
(9) You're physically aggressive, doesn't have to
be towards your partner, punching walls, slamming doors…
(10) You pressure your partner into having
sex
(11) You shut down, without an explanation &
use silence as a way of controlling your partner
If these behaviours sound familiar,
saying 'I'm sorry' isn't enough and the current COVID19 situation
is no excuse.
It is important that you take complete
responsibility for your abusive behaviour.
Call The Respect Phoneline on
0808 802 4040 (Mon - Fri, 9am - 5pm)
http://respect.uk.net/information-support/domestic-violence-perpetrators/
You can also email [email protected]
for confidential advice