If you're being abusive toward your partner, the first and hardest part of changing is admitting your behaviour is wrong. It's very important to take responsibility for the problem and get help to end it.

Here are signs that you've crossed the line…

(1) You frequently have angry outbursts at your partner
(2) You criticise the way your partner looks or dresses
(3) You insult or curse at your partner when you're upset
(4) You constantly call or text your partner to check where they are
(5) You won't give your partner any space and refuse to leave if they ask you
(6) You try to control the people your partner spends time with
(7) You use manipulation to make your partner doubt themselves (called 'gaslighting')
(8) You often speak for your partner, or speak over them
(9) You're physically aggressive, doesn't have to be towards your partner, punching walls, slamming doors…
(10) You pressure your partner into having sex
(11) You shut down, without an explanation & use silence as a way of controlling your partner

If these behaviours sound familiar, saying 'I'm sorry' isn't enough and the current COVID19 situation is no excuse. 

It is important that you take complete responsibility for your abusive behaviour. 

Call The Respect Phoneline on 0808 802 4040 (Mon - Fri, 9am - 5pm)

http://respect.uk.net/information-support/domestic-violence-perpetrators/

You can also email [email protected] for confidential advice